nothing_to_worry_about Melissa Spitz

"You have nothing to worry about." Photographs of my mentally ill mother. Personal account @spitzmelissa
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nothing_to_worry_about: The only portrait I made in Florida, 2017

The only portrait I made in Florida, 2017 Dear Followers, As some of you might have noticed I shut my account down after a very intense vacation with my mom. I wrestled with feelings of guilt and obligation about sharing what happened on the internet. All those feelings of shame and embarrassment came flooding back into my life and for a moment, like all of us, I wanted to pretend that this is not real. I want to apologize for my disappearance. I felt like I was in a car accident and everyone was watching. But over the past few days I haven't stopped thinking about all the personal "car accidents" you all might be experiencing or have experienced. I truly believe that this account is more than clicks and likes, but a forum and place to have a honest conversation about mental health. To shut it down is unfair, we need this space. Growing up with my mom has affected every facet of my life and is showing itself in different ways as I get older. I never anticipated this project becoming what it has and I know that this community will understand that sometimes you just have to run away, turn it off and take care of yourself. I will come out of the darkness. In the meantime I will be sure to keep everyone updated on my mom and I. Right now we need space and she agreed to not travel again. I can’t express how much this account means to me and seriously this post is for YOU. Practicing self care is important for resources in your immediate area visit www.psychologytoday.com (link in bio) Thank you all for your support and becoming a part of my life and this process. You Have Nothing To Worry About. SO much love, Melissa

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nothing_to_worry_about: The only portrait I made in Florida, 2017

The only portrait I made in Florida, 2017 Dear Followers, As some of you might have noticed I shut my account down after a very intense vacation with my mom. I wrestled with feelings of guilt and obligation about sharing what happened on the internet. All those feelings of shame and embarrassment came flooding back into my life and for a moment, like all of us, I wanted to pretend that this is not real. I want to apologize for my disappearance. I felt like I was in a car accident and everyone was watching. But over the past few days I haven't stopped thinking about all the personal "car accidents" you all might be experiencing or have experienced. I truly believe that this account is more than clicks and likes, but a forum and place to have a honest conversation about mental health. To shut it down is unfair, we need this space. Growing up with my mom has affected every facet of my life and is showing itself in different ways as I get older. I never anticipated this project becoming what it has and I know that this community will understand that sometimes you just have to run away, turn it off and take care of yourself. I will come out of the darkness. In the meantime I will be sure to keep everyone updated on my mom and I. Right now we need space and she agreed to not travel again. I can’t express how much this account means to me and seriously this post is for YOU. Practicing self care is important for resources in your immediate area visit www.psychologytoday.com (link in bio) Thank you all for your support and becoming a part of my life and this process. You Have Nothing To Worry About. SO much love, Melissa

750 16 Oct 8, 2017
nothing_to_worry_about: Stop That Train by Bob Marley & the Wailers

Stop That Train by Bob Marley & the Wailers Stop that train, I'm leavin' today Stop that train, I'm leavin' anyway Stop that train, I'm leavin' And I said, it won't be too long whether I'm right or wrong I said, it won't be too long whether I'm right or wrong All my good life I've been a lonely man Teachin' my people who don't understand And even though I tried my best I still can't find no happiness So I got to say Stop that train, I'm leavin' oh, baby now Stop that train, I'm leavin', I don't care what you say Stop that train, I'm leavin' And I said, it won't be too long whether I'm right or wrong . . . I don't know when I'll be ready to write about this vacation... I wanted to share a few of my favorite songs that help me deal. Thank you all for listening and your support, it does not go unnoticed.

883 30 Oct 8, 2017
nothing_to_worry_about: Mother by John Lennon 
Mother, you had me

Mother by John Lennon Mother, you had me but I never had you I wanted you, you didn't want me So I, I just gotta tell you Goodbye, goodbye Father, you left me but I never left you I needed you, you didn't need me So I, I just gotta tell you Goodbye, goodbye Children, don't do what I have done I couldn't walk and I tried to run So I, I just gotta tell you Goodbye, goodbye . . . I don't know when I'll be ready to write about this vacation... I wanted to share a few of my favorite songs that help me deal. Thank you all for listening and your support, it does not go unnoticed.

376 10 Oct 8, 2017
nothing_to_worry_about: Help Yourself by Sad Brad Smith 
I know

Help Yourself by Sad Brad Smith I know you'll help us When you're Feeling better and we realize That it might not be for a long, long time But we're willing to wait on you We believe in everything that you can do If you could only lay down your mind I want you to try to help yourself Take the time to take apart Each brick that sits outside your heart And look around you There's people everywhere No they don't always show They're just as scared And we'd be more prepared If you just pulled on through . . . I don't know when I'll be ready to write about this vacation... I wanted to share a few of my favorite songs that help me deal. Thank you all for listening and your support, it does not go unnoticed.

654 23 Oct 6, 2017
nothing_to_worry_about: Mom got the flu, 2017

Our first night

Mom got the flu, 2017 Our first night in Florida was great. We had a very nice dinner and mom seemed to enjoy herself despite being totally out of it on the plane. Traveling with her is borderline impossible and brings out the worst in me. On the second night things got bad. When we picked mom up from her hotel I could tell something was off. She reeked of alcohol. We asked her if she had been drinking and she just sat silent. When she did speak she asked us to go buy a cane to help her walk better because her ‘legs were wobbly’. The next day she called me and told me she needed to go to urgent care immediately because she was so sick.

660 7 Oct 6, 2017
nothing_to_worry_about: Jacksonville Beach Florida, 2017

Mom rarely vacations. We’

Jacksonville Beach Florida, 2017 Mom rarely vacations. We’re fortunate that Adam lives at the beach so we have a reason for coming down here as often as we do. But this trip seems different. Mom’s sick and we haven’t really seen her. She’s going to be so upset when she gets home and realizes that we barely spent any time together. I shouldn’t worry so much. Spending time with my brother is always nice.

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nothing_to_worry_about: Vacation?, 2017

There was a wedding at mom’

Vacation?, 2017 There was a wedding at mom’s preferred hotel so this morning I needed to check her out of the beachside resort and bring her to a hotel closer to my brother’s apartment. She promised me she would be ready by the time I got there… of course when I arrived her things were everywhere. She was confused and out of it. I packed her bags and got her down to the car. She stood outside and said, “Melissa the tires are moving…” I told her the car was in park and helped her get in the passenger seat. Adam and I are hanging for the rest of the day. It’s felt like such a bummer, for lack of a better term, I was so excited to have a fun vacation with mom. I can’t help but wish she would take better care of herself.